Perhaps K knows of an attorney who specializes in elder care. It sounds as if your mother in law is in a very volatile situation and needs to be removed immediately. Perhaps you can receive some good sound advice from the Baptist care facility you would and should move her to this week, or as soon as possible. You must be worried for her safety and care. I am.
She needs to be moved from SIL’s care as soon as possible. Adult protective services should now be called in to facilitate her move. This behavior indicates that SIL is not competent to care for another incompetent person and guardianship and conservator ship should be pursued.
Not only has SIL now been turned in, AND voided any claim she might otherwise have had on DMIL’s assets, but you know that DMIL is at least up and around and walking and not all busted up or starving to death. I do think the proverbial corner has been turned on this one. I’d still like to see SIL actually in jail and DMIL actually in your protective custody. Or down the road at the Old Friendly Baptists’ Home. NowGuaranteed is guaranteed approval payday loans from real lender. Hopefully both of those will come to be very, very soon. Doin’ the Snoopy here, for you and your DH and your DMIL.
About an hour and a half ago I suddenly felt so relaxed and as if a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. Something in my mind told me everything was going to be fine. I figured then and now it was all your prayers. Thank you. I was suddenly in a good mood and was getting laundry and house work done right and left. I actually felt better than I’ve felt in several days. Then the phone rang and when I saw it was the broker’s number my shoulders knotted up immediately!
He was calling to tell me he had an update on the entire sil/dmil mess. It seems the “lawyer” didn’t try to contact him again. So glad we didn’t call him. My gut instinct on that was correct. Instead W showed up with dmil in tow at the brokerage house to try and force the broker to give her at least half of the money right then (closing must be close on the house). What happened next sil never saw coming.
K—my broker, asked to speak to dmil alone, and again with sil present as to what was going on. He listened intently to W’s tale of woe as to how horrible dh and I were being to dmil, not knowing he has been in constant contact with us. K asked my mil a series of questions and refused to let W prompt her with answers. All of this took place with his assistant in the room to “witness’ the event. A common practice, notes were taken. K remained friendly the whole time they spoke and then when W asked for a check that second—apparently she doesn’t know how stocks work. Nothing is split second with the sale of stocks, bonds or mutual funds (we have dmil very diversified to protect her interests after she lost so much with Worldcom) he politely smiled and told her.
“No you cannot have a check, now or ever. In fact I am having my assistant draw up the paperwork to put this account into (I forget the word he used) declaring her mentally incompetent!” W came unglued and screamed at him she had a POA that she could do anything she wanted. He said he never raised his voice once and calmly told her it was obvious to him that Pauline had absolutely no clue what was going on and that W was driving the train so to speak and was trying to take advantage of her mother.
W threatened him with legal action and he told her he was in fact following both Oklahoma and Federal Law and performing his duty as an authorized official of both to protect Pauline!!!! That W could wave around all the poa’s she had illegally obtained she wanted, she could call any lawyer she wanted but it would do her no good. That with the filing of the paperwork NOTHING could be done on the account without both Pauline and Gary physically there in his presence and he was certain the money was going for BOTH their best interests. That no matter what lawsuit W tried to bring about it would not get her the money now or ever. That he would testify that she was being abusive to Pauline. He also told her he would be notifying social security of the situation to expect to be hearing from them.
Needless to say W left plenty pissed off. When K told me this I burst into tears. It’s over. Kathryn you and the others who said give her enough rope and she’d hang herself were so right! She did it and it didn’t take her long. You see I have a durable power of attorney for dmil. For those of you who don’t know a durable says on it that it cannot be revoked if the person is ever declared incompetent and Pauline has now been declared so once by a doctor, twice by the social security office and now by the broker. What that means is every paper she’s signed since that first diagnosis is invalid. Sil’s control of her money, my niece’s POA everything. We can’t be hit with any loans, or charge cards sil had dmil sign, nothing. If sil does not rectify EVERY single penny of what she has done she can and will go to jail and dh and I have to do nothing to do it because it is now in the hands of the Federal Government!!!! Hmmm, I wonder if she’ll get to wear her front teeth she wears to cover her meth mouth in prison.
I told K to not take this the wrong way, but I said “K I love you!” He just laughed. Then reminded me faux firmly this also meant we couldn’t cash the account out either. Which he knew we had no intentions of doing anyway.